Self-Talk - Supportive or Sabotaging?

Our Self-Talk makes us or breaks us. That voice in your head speaking to you all day every day is what creates our level of self-esteem. Do we speaking lovingly and supportively to ourselves? Or are we calling ourselves names and bullying ourselves all day long?

In this interview with Rachel Astarte, we chat about self-love and self-talk. I share how I moved from an unhappy, toxic marriage to being one of the happiest people I know and that most people know! If you’re in a place where life just doesn’t feel like you know that it’s meant to, I invite you to have a listen. You’ll learn the difference between happiness and contentment, what happiness really is, and that it is truly in your own hands. Plus, why it’s important to put your attention on your own happiness!

You can learn more about Rachel here!

The Path of the Conscious Creator

Today, I’m writing to the Conscious Creators out there. Those of you, who by choice, or a higher guidance that you can’t ignore no matter how hard you try, are driven to constantly, with or through imperfect action, toward your ideal life. A life most fully expressed through and by you.

This is not the easy path. The easy path is the one that is programmed into us from birth. That check list of 1. Go to school, 2. Get a good job, 3. Get married, 4. Buy a home, 5. Have kids, 6. Live happily ever after.

The thing is, most of us don’t live happily ever after. Some feel mild discontent in this societally conditioned and acceptable path, yet rarely question it. Some attempt to alleviate their dissatisfaction, or worse - pain, through drugs, alcohol, Netflix binges, or the internet in various forms. They are content in their discontent and would rather complain or cover than make the effort that change and fully living require.

Many of us begin to wake up as our discontent grows into desperately unhappy and we feel lost, even to ourselves. Here, we have two choices - stay and do as society expects OR start listening to, and being guided by, that higher voice; that Higher Guidance who put you here to have vibrant, fully experienced and expressed life.

This is not the easy path. When it opens to you, when you begin to awaken, there is no turning back. We may pause temporarily, start to doze when we hit a comfortable spot, but something keeps nudging us, refusing to let us fall back to sleep. ”Comfortable,” or “Good enough,” aren’t the way of the Conscious Creator.

That voice inside will keep whispering to you, “Hey, this is nice, it ticks a lot of boxes, but it isn’t that ideal, shoot for the stars life that you want and you know it! You want passion and fire and the full depth of emotion and experience, remember? Are you comfortable right now or are you lit up from within? We hear this and we know that eventually, we are going to have to gather our courage and do hard things. We have to make difficult decisions that may not feel very good in the moment. Who wants to leave that cozy, comfortable job, or relationship, or whatever it is that’s keeping you from experiencing the life that you truly desire? Who wants to hurt people they care about?

Six years ago, I was contemplating divorce. It was finally easy for me to see, and admit, that the relationship was very unhealthy, but I wasn’t sure what to do because we have 3 children together. I spent a lot of time in tears on the floor of my bedroom asking for help from the Universe to guide me. After several days there and so many tears, the silence finally washed over me and I heard, “What is right for you is right for all.”

When you come to a decision from that place of silent, still, clarity within you and you know with every fiber of your being that the decision is right for you, then there is no doubt that it is also right for everyone involved. It isn’t right for one person and not the other, whether that’s a relationship, a job, or anything else. When you decide from that Highest Truth, not Ego, you can feel the difference with practice - then what is right is right for everyone, even if it doesn’t feel that way in the moment.

How do you know the difference between the Ego and the Higher Truth? The Ego feels disconnected from your body. The Higher Truth comes from that place deep within us and we can feel it with every part of our Being. It is always guiding us lovingly to our next steps, if not without intense sensations that might be described as painful. The Ego will be harsh and play on your fears. The Truth only comforts with love.

Some Higher Truths, those answers that come guiding us toward the next right step, are harder to carry out than others. Often, we wait until the Truth is no longer whispering, but fully shouting at us that it is time to move. Time to shift. Time to make the changes that support us in our growth and expansion, moving us closer to that ideal, fully expressed life. If you’re a Conscious Creator, practiced or new to this path, trust that the Courage will show up when you need it. And remember, you are not alone. You may look around and see no one quite like you in your life, but we’re out here, supporting you. We are all around, courageously creating and living the lives of our dreams one step forward at a time. You might recognize us by the people calling us either crazy or brave. We may be a little of both and life is meant to be lived!

Those of you on this path, and you must be or you wouldn’t still be reading this, come to recognize that the highest emotions, the ones typically judged as good or positive, like joy, happiness, aliveness, excitement, those will only ever be as good as we are willing to experience and express their opposites - the grief, the sadness, frustration, and hurt that so often come along with doing the hard things that are required to keep us moving forward.

If you’re feeling a call toward living more consciously, more courageously, I repeat, you’re not alone. You don’t have to do it all by yourself. Over the past 6 years, I’ve built a beautiful community of Conscious Creators locally through Meetup.com. Now, we’re gathering from around the globe in a private Facebook Group. You can join us or you can join another group that speaks to your soul. Learn to notice and trust those intuitive nudges that guide you.

This is not the easy path. And it is so worth it.

You are loved. You are courageous. You are a Conscious Creator!