Why Confidence Matters

I was judging myself for this photo and I was going to retake it before posting it to promote my Coffee Connections - In Person Meetup last week.

Spot the imperfection.

Right? Which one? Or what imperfection? It's all a matter of perspective, but your perspective matters because it's yours. It's the one you're living from.

For me, it was the lipstick on the mug. I didn't notice it until I'd opened the pic on my bigger desk monitor. I noticed my Inner Critic jump online and get to work, but I called its BS.

Lipstick on my mug makes this not good enough? Nonsense.Thanks for trying to protect me, but you're not needed now. I'm practicing embracing imperfection and showing up imperfectly, so this time, take the backseat because I'm driving.

This is the #Confidence piece of Radiant Happiness: 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm - A Free Masterclass that's coming up on Monday.

See, we can get clear on what we want life to look and feel like, but if we don't have the confidence, the deep inner belief, and trust in ourselves, then we won't be able to turn that vision into our reality. We have to learn how to tame our inner critic and get it working with us instead of against us.

It might seem trivial, but if we’re walking around allowing that overprotective bully to run the show we are missing out on so many opportunities! We’re not even aware of what we’re missing because we’re just avoiding anything that strikes the slightest fear or discomfort into our hearts. But it’s facing fear and being willing to get uncomfortable that helps us create our happiest, most radiant lives.

On Monday at 6pm EST, we’re going to meet that pesky, critical voice. We’ll courageously face it together, learn how it’s trying to help us and why it can hurt so much, and then we’ll learn a practice to help get it supporting us instead of sabotaging us. All we really have to do is get to know it.

Have you registered yet? Be sure to click through the Event Details to the Registration Link to make it official or DM me. You deserve to love yourself and your life!!

Did you miss it? Reach out for a complimentary coaching session to get you on your pathway to happiness!

From Stuck and Sad to Fulfilled and Joyful! Creating A Life I Love (and you can, too!)

9 Years ago today, I woke up in Oslo, Norway, ready to begin a training that would change the course of my entire life.

At the time, I had given up trying to make my marriage work (I had already tried everything). Instead, I was trying to figure out how to find myself again. I was so lost in the years of giving away my voice for my then-husband's comfort, trying everything to please him and be a "good wife." I barely knew who I was anymore, but I knew that I wanted be a better mom than I was being and I wanted to feel happy again. I wanted to feel at peace with where I was in my life and to stop wishing for it to be different.

The day I woke up in Oslo, divorce still wasn't an option in my mind. My family was my priority, or so I thought.

Over the course of 4 long, intense days of deep inner work with the love and accountability of Janet Attwood herself (creator of The Passion Test) and her amazing trainers, my heart broke free. My soul started singing again. My stuck mindset began to shift and I tapped into my dreams of what I wanted for my life again. My life. Not my husband's. Mine. 🫶 There I was.

My #1 Passion became "I am living authentically from my heart and soul." I learned the formula to make that a reality and the secret that guaranteed it and I began to live it. No more lying to myself. No more Stepford Wife to make sure my husband didn't get mad at me for being me. No more. I had felt the spark of my authentic self once again, for the first time in so many years, and I was never going to let it fade out again. I still haven't. 💖

Another passion, though I can't recall where it fell in my top 5, was "I am experiencing a happy, harmonious family life." I wasn't considering divorce yet, but I also wasn't making it about my husband or my marriage, specifically. One of my markers for that passion was that I "speak with loving kindness to my children," and that I hear them laughing and playing respectfully together all of the time. They were little at the time - just 8, 7, and 4.

➡️Fast forward to last night - I'm happily divorced and even more happily partnered with an incredible man who loves me for exactly who I am. He's still in Florida, where we recently took an amazing vacation together. My kids and I were having dinner together in our beautiful home. I felt my heart growing in my chest, bursting with love and gratitude as I watched them interacting, talking, laughing together, with respect. With kindness. My 3 teenagers do not fight. My kids haven't fought with each other for years. Once I began modeling calm, respectful, loving tones and behaviors, my kids reflected it, too. We have a beautifully happy and harmonious family life today (with the realistic challenges and struggles that teens dealing with anxiety, gender identity, and puberty along with the good stuff).

⚡️Every single year, sometimes twice, I make a new list of passions and continually align my life with what matters the most to me, now. Every single year, my life gets more and more beautiful from the inside out. Every single year, I am more *me* than ever and I love and respect the woman that I am. The beautiful parts, the raw parts, the clumsy parts, the fun parts... all of me. I love all of me and all of my life because I embrace it all and continually choose in favor of my ideal life, loving where I'm at and growing and moving toward what more I want.

🙏Every single year, I take dozens of people through the Passion Test and help them design a life of intention, consciously creating what they want to experience in their lives. Every year, I get to watch those clients soar - transforming their relationships (especially with themselves) and their entire experience from one they thought they "had to deal with" into one that is fulfilling and joyful.

If you're tired, so tired like I was, of faking it, The Passion Test might be your pathway home to yourself. If you feel like you just have to "get through" another day, like I did, I promise you there is more in life for you. Are you ready to explore what's possible for you? Message me. Let's chat. If it's possible for me, it's possible for you. You're worthy and deserving of a life you love, now. 💗

#createalifeyoulove #selfrespect #selflove #wellbeing #happiness #purposefullife #clarity #thepassiontest

Creating the Foundation for A Life You Love!

I'm so grateful to those of you who are committed to consciously creating lives that you love. Each one of us creates a positive ripple that sparks a light within someone else who witness our internal joy. They may not quite know what it is, but they sense something different... something special about you.

The presence of a person who loves their life, who is devoted to themselves is different than those who give themselves away to others. The light within you sparks hope in the hearts of others who know something is missing, but not how to reach it.

Each time you take another step fully into who you are meant to be in this world, shedding all that you are not to be more of who you are, you give permission to others to do the same. More importantly for you, however, is a new level of joy and vibrancy in your life. A deeper threshold to feel the emotions that a full, rich life experience brings to us.

I've spent the past 3 weeks freely sharing the formula for creating a life you love, what helps or hinders that process, shown you how to turn your inner critic into your inner cheerleader, and started you designing your ideal life. If you missed the Zoom meetings, have no fear! We're going deeper still.

Tonight, the doors are officially open! I've selected the most vital pieces of all of the workshops that I've ever run and combined them into a 6-week group Foundations Course. You’ll identify your passions, learn how your mind works against you and how to get it on your side, to turn your inner-critic into your greatest cheerleader, and the breath work and tools to help you find and trust your own inner wisdom and support you on your journey.

This interactive group course covers the basics of everything that I teach in longer programs and 1:1s and gives you a clear foundation on which to build your ideal life. It’s the Passion Test, Happy for No Reason, The Mastery of Self-Love, and Breath-work and Meditation combined into one easily digestible course! 6 weeks, 1 hour per week. If you miss it, replays will be sent out the next day.

What would it be worth to you to look back a year from now, knowing that you made the decision that changed your life forever for the better? When you committed... no... devoted yourself to yourself? When you decided that you were your #1 priority. When you recognized that you are worthy and deserving of a most passionate, purpose-filled, and joyful life?

Sign up between now and Sunday and save $100. Sign up within the next 24-hours and I'll throw in a hardcover copy of The Passion Test book. Refer a friend and get 30-minutes 1:1 with me. Sign-up here. You're worth it. https://tinyurl.com/Cr8withTamara

Pushing Buttons

I never imagined myself to be one who pushes other people's buttons. I'm a middle child, a peacekeeper. I'm moderate everything. I see the gray, rarely the black or the white. I want happiness for all and frequently wonder why it's so hard for people to see both sides or to simply get along. 

Then recently, I noticed that I give a little push. I hear or see the words of those lost in victimhood. They don't even notice it. They say things like, "This always happens to me," or "Story of my life..." and I say, "Oh, no wonder." And then I find myself pushing. Gently, lovingly, but pushing, nevertheless. Mirroring their words back to them so that they can see what they are creating. Some see it. Some don't. But regardless, I willingly reach out and push. 

Few of us know exactly why we're here on this Earth. That existential question plagues so many of us. I am grateful to know exactly why I am here. I am a button pusher. The button? Its label reads, "Growth." 

Why are you here? Need help discovering it? Take the Passion Test with me. It's so much more than you think. 

How to Handle Bumps Along the Road of Life - Tools to Get You from Contraction back into Expansion

The Passion Test is like a map or a GPS, guiding you along the path to your ideal life. The formula shows you how to love the journey as much as the destination, but as with any road-trip, sometimes there are bumps along the way. Maybe a portion of the road is closed and you have to take a detour. Perhaps there's an accident up ahead that delays you for longer than you'd hoped. Or, maybe the car breaks down and parts have to be replaced. 

Plenty of obstacles can crop up on the way to our ideal life. So what can we do? How do we get back on track? The answer is simple:

Tools. Anytime something breaks, you pull out a tool to fix it, right? Any time a screw comes loose, or a nail sticks out too far, you grab a tool and put it right again. 

As you walk your path of living and creating a life that is more joyful and fulfilling, challenges arise. Screws come loose. And so, there are tools. 

This week, I'm sharing a specific tool to help you keep your nuts and bolts securely in place. EFT, commonly known as tapping, is an incredible resource to utilize when things begin to feel messy and overwhelming. It's called "tapping" because you use your fingers to "tap" on points on your body. 

It's like having acupuncture at your fingertips, only free, always available, and no scary needles. You can tap on anything at all, physical or emotional and you can't do it wrong. You tap on specific points as you talk (or think) about the issue at hand (no pun intended). 

I'm not an expert, but I have been tapping for a few years now and regularly recommend tapping to clients, friends and family.  Recently, I've become part of a focus group, tapping for parents. It's still astounding to me how much emotional weight can shift with a few rounds of tapping and I've seen it make huge impact on my children in a very short amount of time. 

The Tapping Solution is my favorite resource, but all over YouTube videos and scripts are readily available. I love Brad Yates (he's funny and covers a variety of issues), Carol Look (she's fabulous for helping you break your inner glass ceiling) and Margaret Lynch (have financial issues? This is the one for you!). 

The thing that I love the most about tapping is that you get to be totally honest about how you're feeling. There's no rose-colored glasses going on here. If you're feeling crappy, chaotic, depressed, in pain, angry, or even fantastically happy and successful, you can tap on that. You tell the truth of your experience as you tap. Suddenly, layers start to peel back and underlying issues come to light.

Once you've tapped on the negatives, then you transition into affirmative rounds of tapping, always telling the truth of your experience, and opening up to a new way of feeling and being, using words like, "I want to feel relaxed," or "I choose to let go of this anger," for example. 

Try it out and see what happens for you. Then, come back here or on the Facebook page and let us know! 

I'll be sharing more tools all month long to help you live a life you love now! 

Image courtesy of thetappingsolution.com 

The Passion Test - Scam or Treasure Map?

The other day someone very close and important to me voiced their opinion that what I do, giving The Passion Test, is a scam. "Who would pay $300 to find out what their Passion is?" 

First of all, I don't charge quite that much. Yet.

Second of all, it's a great question, isn't it? My Ego stood up straight and stomped its feet for a few minutes, but once I breathed into it, I was grateful for the opportunity to consider the answer, to find the gift. 

Who would pay to learn their Passions?

I let my mind drift and flow through the river of my thoughts and  wondered, is that really what people are paying for? 

Absolutely not. No one is coming to me just for the answer to what lights their fire. Deep in their hearts, they know what matters and they know they aren't living in a way that honors themselves. They feel discord in their lives and they want harmony. People come to me to find their voice, to see an example of courageous living, to see proof that it can be done.  What they are paying for, what they really want to know is, "How can I feel alive again?" 

How can I feel? How can I return to my essence after a lifetime of programming to live from the outer as opposed to the inner? How can I reunite with that state of wonder and joy that I came into this physical form experiencing? Who will give me permission to do so? 

I will. I give you permission. I am a light that reflects yours - the one you can no longer see, yet you feel is there somewhere. This is my gift. To help you see yours and only if you want to. I help you to acknowledge and allow into your life a feeling of happiness. I help you allow the awareness that it's ok to be happy, even when life isn't perfect. The awareness that it is ok to be happy, even when others around you aren't. The awareness that you are not your story. The confirmation that life is meant to be lived joyfully.

People are paying for directions to their ideal life, to joyful living. You buy a map or a GPS to help you navigate from your house to your vacation rental or from the countryside to the big city. It's the same, only this destination is much more important. People are paying for The Passion Test because it teaches them how to navigate their lives in a more joyful, purposeful and fulfilling way. 

If that doesn't resonate with you, that's cool. You're not my client. You're not going to pay me a thing. If it does resonate with you, if you value living a joyful, positive life in word and action, then it only takes a phone call or a message to become my client. 

Someone I love doesn't value what I do and that's ok. Because of The Passion Test and other tools that I've used along my way, I don't require the approval of others to feel good about myself or what I do. I value me. I value my work. I value you. Do you?